It's almost
a foregone conclusion that researchers who compare children raised by
heterosexual parents to those raised by a homosexual one will be vilified,
harassed, and professionally targeted. An amicus brief filed with the 5th
Circuit Court of Appeals might explain why.
In their own words, four of
these adult children are breaking their silence in an official court document
about how growing up with same sex parents changed their lives. At a time when
the Left is desperately trying to prove that all families are the same, these
stories -- from the powerful to the painful -- speak for themselves.
With moving testimonies, the
"quartet of truth" bravely pulls back the curtain on the grief and
confusion that marked their childhoods without a mom or dad. B.N. Klein remembers growing up "with a parent and her
partners in an atmosphere in which gay ideology was used as a tool of
repression, retribution and abuse." In a house where the bedroom was more
like a revolving door, she felt more like a "prop to be publicly displayed
to prove that gay families are just like heterosexual ones. While I do not
believe all gays would be de facto bad parents, I know that the gay community
has never in my lifetime put children first as anything other than a piece of
property, a past mistake, or a political tool to be dressed up and taken out as
part of a dog-and-pony show to impress the well-meaning."
For Robert
Lopez, feeling loved wasn't the problem. Finding a connection with a father
figure was. "My upbringing," he says wistfully, "represented the
best possible conditions for a child raised by a same-sex couple," but the
lack of an adult male role model led him down a harrowing path of homosexual
prostitution in a desperate effort to compensate for the dad he never had.
"I experienced a great deal of sexual confusion. I had an inexplicable
compulsion to have sex with older males… The money was not as impactful as the
fact that I needed to feel loved and wanted by an older male figure."
Now, as an
adult, he says his
story isn't all that different from dozens of others who have similar scars
from the deep longing for the parents they never knew. For him, just opening up
about his experience was a big step because of the retribution that awaited
him. "Children raised by same-sex couples face a gauntlet if they break
the silence about the 'no disadvantages' consensus." At work, he was
targeted and harassed: "In such a climate, I must conclude that placing
children in same-sex couples' homes is dangerous, because they have no space or
latitude to express negative feelings about losing a mom or dad, and in fact,
they have much fear if they do."
Katy Faust
understands that all too well. "The label of bigot or hater has become a
very powerful and effective tool to silence those of us who choose not to
endorse the same sex marriage platform," she writes. "For many years, those devices kept me
quiet… But I have come to realize that my silence, and the silence of others,
has allowed for the conversation to be dominated by those who claim that only
animus, ignorance, or indoctrination could lead one to oppose 'marriage
equality.'"
Now, she
says, "we are normalizing a family structure where a child will always be deprived daily of one gender
influence and the relationship with at least one natural parent. Our cultural
narrative becomes one that, in essence, tells children that they have no right
to the natural family structure or their biological parents, but that children
simply exist for the satisfaction of adult desires."
"Your childhood," Dawn
Steanowicz agrees, "is divided to please adults." Dawn, who
was immersed in the homosexual and transgender subcultures, spoke with raw
transparency about being exposed to "sodomy, nudity, pornography, group
sex, sadomasochism," and even watching helplessly as her dad propositioned
a male high school friend for sex. These are the truths the Left doesn't want
you to know. Like the other three, the anguish Dawn felt was because
"there's a missing biological parent," not because her fathers
couldn't get married. There are "two rights" every child should
share, Katy told the court. "First, the right to live. Second, the right
to have a relationship with his/her father or mother."
